Silat-ar-Rahim (Ties of Kinship)
Listen to Today's Lesson
The Concept
In the modern world, we often cut off relatives who are annoying, toxic, or just 'not our vibe.' We prioritize 'protecting our peace.' But Islam places a massive emphasis on **Silat-ar-Rahim** (Upholding Ties of Kinship). It is a direct cause of increased lifespan and wealth. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: **'Whoever would like his provision to be increased and his life to be extended, let him uphold the ties of kinship.'** This is a physical manifestation of Barakah caused by a social action. The 'Rahim' (Womb) is connected to 'Ar-Rahman' (The Most Merciful). When you cut the tie of kinship, you cut the tie of Mercy from Allah.
The Man Who Wanted to Cut Ties
A man came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and complained: 'O Messenger of Allah, I have relatives with whom I try to relate, but they cut me off; I treat them well, but they treat me badly; I am forbearing with them, but they are harsh with me.' Basically, he was in a toxic relationship. He probably expected the Prophet to say, 'Cut them off! You deserve better.' Instead, the Prophet replied: **'If it is as you say, then it is as if you are feeding them hot ashes, and you will have a supporter against them from Allah as long as you continue to do so.'** The Prophet did not tell him to stop. He told him that his patience was his victory. The 'hot ashes' metaphor means their bad behavior will only harm them (like eating ash), while his good behavior attracts divine support. By maintaining the high ground, he was keeping the channel of Barakah open for himself, regardless of their behavior.
Today's Action
Identify one relative you have drifted from. Not necessarily someone abusive, but perhaps someone you've just neglected or find 'boring.' - Send them a text: 'Thinking of you, hope you are well.' - Call them for 5 minutes. - Visit them if they are close. Do it purely for the sake of Allah to activate the promise of increased provision. Swallow your ego and make the first move.
Journaling Reflection
"Is there a relative I am 'punishing' with my silence? Am I willing to be the one who initiates the reconnection for the sake of Allah?"